Month: February 2017

Home (and the importance of a DNR order)

On this day, one year ago, I rode home in an ambulance with GR from the hospital. We were going home for him to die. Never in a million years would I have predicted that we’d be together in such a situation. The entire day leading up to that ambulance ride home was very stressful. …

It’s not you, IKEA. It’s me.

Today was a “just dip your big toe in the sad-sack well but pull it back out as soon as you can” day. This grief thing takes a lot of energy. And sometimes you don’t have the energy it needs. I went to IKEA in Memphis tonight for the first time. It looks like…well…every other IKEA …

Love makes it all bearable

A few weeks ago I went to an Andrew Bird concert in Memphis with my friend Megan and her boyfriend Sean. I’d seen him play at the Belly Up venue in Aspen this past summer, which was amazing. Before that, the last time I’d seen him was a couple of years ago at the Chicago …

Shaman Rob changed everything

Almost two months to the day after GR died I flew to Los Angeles by myself. My dear friend Kelli lives in Santa Monica with her husband Greg and their daughter Ruby. She had called me a few days after GR died to tell me that they were all going to New Zealand for six …

Inspiration à la Janis

I’ve been staying up really late at night this past week watching Netflix. I binge-watched the entire first season of The Crown in about three nights, then watched Extremis about end-of-life healthcare decision-making (I’ll save that for another post. I’m trying to not be depressing today), and, most recently, Janis: Little Girl Blue about Janis Joplin’s story from her …

When self-help books help

My sister Zoe makes fun of me that if and when I ever were to attempt online dating (which for the record is not even a thought in my mind right now), that my bio should read: “Fully stocked with essential oils and self-help books. Also, new car owner.” She thinks this is hilarious. I …