Month: March 2017

Remembering leads to letting go

I have come up for air and, I must say, it feels great. It’s not all doom and gloom for forever. It’s not all tears and triggers and breakdowns all the time. I have hit a new plateau. And when my mind starts wondering how long it’s going to last or exactly how it is …

When you’re not in the mood for heavy

Yesterday was my second group grief counseling for spouses meeting. Two down, two more to go. Let’s just say I was not in the mood for such an activity yesterday, but I committed to my therapist for four weeks and I like to fulfill my commitments if at all possible. I wasn’t in the mood …

Soul evolution, acc. to Paramahansa Yogananda

This post is going to be short and sweet because (unpaid) writing on one’s own blog must take the backseat to paid writing gigs with deadlines. C’est la vie. The past couple of days have been really interesting and meaningful. I’ve wanted to write about them almost every hour, but duty has called instead. Soon …

Grief is many things, but not at all tidy

A couple of weeks ago, my grief counselor, Kristen, gave me an article called “The Journey Through Grief: The Mourner’s Six Reconciliation Needs.” It’s written by Alan D. Wolfelt, an author, educator and grief counselor whose philosophy the Center for Good Grief (where I go in Memphis) bases their approach on. She gave me the …

Real talk at the nail salon

Believe it or not, there are upswings to this grief thing. Just so you know(!), not every day is like walking through mud. Today was one of those days. That week-long funk was innnnnnnntense, but lessons were learned there so it’s all good…for now. (Sure wasn’t then!) The main lesson: try as hard as possible …