Tag: cancer

It’s all (eventually) okay.

These days when I talk to others about my past experiences with GR’s cancer and death and loss and widowhood and anything and everything that has transpired in my life since February 21, 2016, I sometimes feel as if I am talking about someone else’s life. It feels kind of strange because I know it’s …

A (hopefully) new day

Dates can be a real measuring stick for me, and probably for most people who have grieved significant losses. Three years ago this month GR died. I feel like I have lived three lifetimes in these past three years. That’s a positive or a negative depending on your perspective. Since my intention was always and …

New eyes, new landscapes, new freedom

Two years and eight-plus months out from GR’s death. Thirty-one years and six months out from my dad’s. Where does that put me today? Well, for one, I’m ready to move forward from being Brooke, the daughter of a man who died when she was 10 years old and also, Brooke, the wife of a …

A voice with a message for a lifetime

I haven’t known how to write about this new season of my life, but I think about it a lot. I wouldn’t say it was necessarily easy to write about all my deep grief, pain and suffering; it was more like I had no choice in the matter. It was coming out my pores. I …

Grounded in light even in the dark

I have seen dark things, but I am not darkness. I lie propped up on the bolster on my yoga mat so that my head is above my heart. My shoulders are back, my chest is expanded, my heart is open. “On your inhale, visualize white light filling your spine from the crown of your …

Remembering leads to letting go

I have come up for air and, I must say, it feels great. It’s not all doom and gloom for forever. It’s not all tears and triggers and breakdowns all the time. I have hit a new plateau. And when my mind starts wondering how long it’s going to last or exactly how it is …

Grief is many things, but not at all tidy

A couple of weeks ago, my grief counselor, Kristen, gave me an article called “The Journey Through Grief: The Mourner’s Six Reconciliation Needs.” It’s written by Alan D. Wolfelt, an author, educator and grief counselor whose philosophy the Center for Good Grief (where I go in Memphis) bases their approach on. She gave me the …

Real talk at the nail salon

Believe it or not, there are upswings to this grief thing. Just so you know(!), not every day is like walking through mud. Today was one of those days. That week-long funk was innnnnnnntense, but lessons were learned there so it’s all good…for now. (Sure wasn’t then!) The main lesson: try as hard as possible …